So many women think that being married to a cop is "cool" or "sexy"...or they just want a man in uniform...what happens when the lust fades,the rose colored glasses fall off and you are faced with the reality of what being a cops wife is all about ?
IF you marry a cop,you'd better make damned sure you know what you're getting into and be willing to support him through all of it. His "bad day at the office" is a walk in the park compared to the majority of the population. There will be times when he brings that black cloud home,no matter how hard he tries not to. You have to be willing and able to listen when he wants to talk and not get offended the times that he doesn't want to,or can't talk about it.
You marry the badge,the dept and the partner/team...So no matter what you may think of the partner,you have to be willing to keep it to yourself...he depends on that other person with his life and doesn't need the nagging ringing in his ears while on duty.
If he is on a pager,there is no promise that he'll be home for dinner,recitals,or any other family plans that are made. Even the sex life can be put on hold if that thing goes off at the "wrong time". If you're out on a date...good idea to have cab fare with you,or have a friend you can call to pick you up. Your schedule has to be flexible enough to work around him,because his isn't.
Even if he isnt on a pager...this is no 9-5 job. Accidents and other things happen that can add hours to his shift. There is no promise that you won't go to bed alone,or wake up alone. So you'd better get used to it.
He is a cop 24/7. Just because he may not be wearing the uniform,or the badge,its still there,burned into his soul. Its impossible for him to turn off those feelings and instincts.
You have to remember that its for better or worse and with a cop,there can be a lot of worse...you just have to be willing to hang in there so that the "better" can be that much sweeter.
